If you care for a loved one with health problems, dementia or disabilities, you could probably use some breaks to manage your own health and personal business, or just to get time to yourself. Health professionals call that “respite.”

But chances are, you aren’t getting the respite you’d like. While nearly 4 in 10 family caregivers want respite services, just 14 percent receive them, according to “Respite Services: A Critical Support for Family Caregivers,” a 2024 report from the AARP Public Policy Institute.

That gap comes with a price, says Jason Resendez, president and CEO of the National Alliance for Caregiving. “Caregiving has consequences,” he says. Caregiver surveys show that “the levels of emotional distress that caregivers experience is really high.” Many caregivers say their health has suffered, and more than one-third say their finances have, says Resendez. “Respite may not be a silver bullet,” but it can help, he notes.

What type of respite care is available?

Some services come to your home to provide you with a few hours of respite, while others can take your loved one for a few hours a day, an occasional overnight or longer.

1. Volunteers. Whether it’s a family member, a neighbor or friend, or a volunteer from a faith group or service organization, this kind of help can be welcome — and free. But it has limits, Young says. You or your loved one might not be comfortable with a volunteer you’ve never met. And it can be difficult to find people capable of handling the needs of someone with advanced dementia or other intense challenges. “I hear a lot of caregivers saying that that’s not really the best option for them,” she says.

2. Home aides. A home health aide, hired directly or through an agency, can be scheduled regularly to help with dressing, bathing, toileting and eating. It costs a median of $6,292 per month, according to Genworth’s Cost of Care Survey 2023. An aide, or companion, who cooks, cleans and runs errands costs slightly less. Typically, aides won’t come for fewer than four hours a day, Young cautions.

3. Adult day programs. Basic adult day care programs offer supervised activities such as meals, snacks and some assistance for several hours a day outside the home. These programs can be a great social outlet for people who don’t need frequent hands-on nursing care, Young says.

For people with more intense needs, such as those with advanced dementia or complex medical routines, there are adult day health programs that, for a higher fee, can provide skilled nursing care and services like speech and occupational therapy. The daily median cost of adult day health programs is $95, according to Genworth. Young says programs with health services generally cost twice as much as basic programs. Unfortunately, day health programs aren’t available in every community.

4. In-patient stays. If you have to leave town, your loved one might need to stay in a hospital, hospice, or nursing home for a few days. A semi-private nursing home room costs a median of $285 a day, Genworth says.

5. Emergency respite care. If you suddenly get sick yourself or have another crisis, you may be able to arrange emergency respite care. That might mean having aides come to your home or moving your loved one elsewhere for anywhere from an hour to several weeks, according to the ARCH National Respite Network and Resource Center. But, the center says, these services can be difficult to find and funding for them is ”extremely limited” in most states.

Who pays for respite services?

You may have to pay out of pocket. But there are other sources, Young and Resendez say. Among them:

1. Medicare. Original Medicare covers respite care only when your loved one is enrolled in hospice. Then it will cover up to five days at a time in an approved facility, such as a nursing home or hospital, with a 5 percent copay.

However, Medicare Advantage plans are increasingly covering broader respite services, and Medicare is studying a dementia care program that would increase caregiver access to respite.

2. Medicaid. Most states cover respite care through programs meant to help older adults stay in their homes. Income limits apply, and eligibility and coverage amounts vary widely. Some states are experimenting with additional options, including allowing caregivers to pay other family members to provide respite.

3. Department of Veterans Affairs. The VA covers in-home care, including respite services, for former service members. It also covers up to 30 days a year of respite nursing home care.

Where can you find respite care services:   Give Aging Assistant In-Home Caregivers a call to schedule a free in-home care consultation. You can reach us at (916) 897-4752 or at www.agingassistant.com

James Ozsvath

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